Defining My Need
Lately I've put myself up on a dating website with encouragement from colleagues. It has been an interesting experience, broadening my perspective of chatting up strangers and challenging my self-concept.
I've never seen myself as attractive by the common social standards and my profile on the website is an honest one. So when people say they like what they saw and start messaging me and say they want to marry me after a few exchanges, I can't help but doubt their intention and put up the romance-scam alert.
One strange phenomenon is their willingness to get into long-distance relationship. Most who state their interest are from overseas - mainly US and UK. I tell them straight on that I'm apprehensive about start developing a serious relationship with someone I've never met in person. I quote myself below from a recent reply to this German guy who signed off with Salam (I've also stated clearly that I am a Christian seeking someone of the same faith).
"Yes I do agree that modern technology can virtually narrow the distance between people. But to trust, respect and fully understand another person, virtual presence is not enough. At least for me it isn't. Different people has different preferred ways of expressing and receiving affection. I need presence.
But for a start, friendship through writing is still acceptable. But anything further would be a bit tough for me to deal with."
I quite like my response :D
I've never seen myself as attractive by the common social standards and my profile on the website is an honest one. So when people say they like what they saw and start messaging me and say they want to marry me after a few exchanges, I can't help but doubt their intention and put up the romance-scam alert.
One strange phenomenon is their willingness to get into long-distance relationship. Most who state their interest are from overseas - mainly US and UK. I tell them straight on that I'm apprehensive about start developing a serious relationship with someone I've never met in person. I quote myself below from a recent reply to this German guy who signed off with Salam (I've also stated clearly that I am a Christian seeking someone of the same faith).
"Yes I do agree that modern technology can virtually narrow the distance between people. But to trust, respect and fully understand another person, virtual presence is not enough. At least for me it isn't. Different people has different preferred ways of expressing and receiving affection. I need presence.
But for a start, friendship through writing is still acceptable. But anything further would be a bit tough for me to deal with."
I quite like my response :D
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